I feel this need to clarify my stance on the latest bathroom issue that has so many of us up in arms.
I feel that there is a need to make all human beings comfortable with this most common human experience. We all have to go potty when out in public now and again, right? No one should have to feel shunned when using a public restroom. I do not have an issue with the LGBT community. I am saddened that so many Christians do and have been unloving to God’s children based on their sexual orientation.
My issue is NOT with homosexual humans. I don’t feel that they are perverts who will harm my children, nor do I feel this way about transgender humans. My issue is with sexually ill human beings that can simply say that they identify as the opposite sex in order to gain easy access to the restrooms that have multiple swinging doors with slots on every side that anyone can see through and easily get into.
I understand that this seems a bit of a stretch, but it may not feel like that if you consider your 16 year old daughter, who is out with friends while you are home, going into the restroom and a 260 lb. man who claims to identify as a female, following her into the restroom in order to do her harm. Yes, this can happen now, but we more readily notice it in a public place because it hasn’t been the norm, but it is becoming the norm and this concerns me. There is an issue of safety here.
If we are accepting everyone at his/her word, then we have to acknowledge that some “perverts” are going to take advantage of this situation to satisfy their depraved needs.
My issues are both safety and compassion. Putting a 3rd bathroom (in establishments that have these multi-stall restrooms) that accommodates the transgender community or anyone who is uncomfortable with the traditional restroom situation, seems the best option for all. It ensures the same level of safety we’ve always had, which isn’t perfect, but is MUCH better than what I believe we are opening our doors to now. This is what the “family restroom” option is currently, so these restrooms could just expand their population.
And this is where I’m gonna get real. So, if you’re a bit of a prude or squeamish, you probably want to stop reading this post right now…
These are my personal feelings about this issue:
I gotta tell ya. I just can’t imagine poppin’ a squat in a multi-door public restroom and watching a human being with a penis enter the stall next to me. It’s just too private. It’s a sacred place where I can ask a perfect stranger if she has a tampon or pad when I’m bleeding like a sieve because the other girls understand. I don’t want a man walking by the stall as I’m about to “affix” my tampon or pad unless he’s my husband. It’s private and kinda yucky. I don’t want the added pressure of being done “affixing” before a man walks in and past my stall with inch wide slits on every side. When it’s vaginas only, I can fix my mascara or check my panty-lines in the mirror with little to no judgement – at least from most women over the age of 27…
I’m not grossed out by using the same commode as a lesbian, gay, transgender, or bisexual human being, anymore than I am grossed out by a heterosexual human being. I just want the vaginas in the girls’ room and the penises in the boys’ room, if they want to be. If they don’t, then I think a 3rd restroom is the choice. If the establishment has single bathrooms, like several in Austin do, then I’m cool with them being genderless (is that the right word?). I don’t care who I share individual public restrooms with, as long as we aren’t sharing simultaneously.
Okay. I’ve said my peace. Except this: I want to love like Jesus and I don’t want to be hateful or judgemental in His name. We are supposed to love one another. We are supposed to listen to each other. I’m open to questions and comments, and I’d love to discuss this further – in a loving and respectful manner. Let’s all stop acting like bratty children and start acting like His children. Because we ALL are.